Dawn Davenport is the Executive Director and member of Creating a Family’s Board. Creating a Family is 501(c)(3) nonprofit providing education and support for infertility and adoption. They don’t promoter infertility treatment, or adoption, or any particular type of adoption, their mantra is “Information is Power.”
May 29th 2013, Highlights & Blog Summary by Creating a Family: Diagnosis & Treatment of Recurrent Miscarriages
Your dreams of your child begin long before conception. They may intensify during your pregnancy, but they’ve been there all along. A miscarriage is the death of this dream child. Your grief is real regardless when during your pregnancy the baby is lost.
I’ve always been amazed at how little we know about the causes of miscarriages. It seems like something so basic as what makes a pregnancy fail would be obvious. The good news is that we are learning more each day. We talked about these recent breakthroughs on yesterday’s Creating a Family show on The Latest Developments in Diagnosis and Prevention of Miscarriages. See highlights of what we covered below.
One of the hardest parts of the grief of pregnancy loss is that others don’t always recognize the pain, and you are left alone with your grief. Regardless of the lack of understanding you need to acknowledge this loss and say good-bye to your child. Many people find it helpful to do something to celebrate this child that was and is no longer, and to honor their grief. Some ideas are:
- Plant a tree or bush in honor of your child.
- Have a memorial service for your child.
- Write a letter to your baby and keep in with your keepsakes.
I don’t think it matters so much what you do, so long as you do something tangible to honor your child and recognize your loss. What have you done or heard of other doing to acknowledge and honor the child they lost through miscarriage?