By Pamela Madsen, The Fertility Advocate, Guest Blogger
I hear an enormous amount of noise and encouragement around the word “No”. And “No” is a great word. No can protect us and free us, and allow us to rest. But what about the word “Yes”? I want to hear more about what saying “Yes” can do for our lives.
E.E. Cummings says,
I imagine that yes is the only living thing.
I imagine that too. When I want movement, it usually involves a yes. Or excitement. Or taking on something new. Or desiring change. When someone offers me an amazing opportunity and I’m not sure how I am going to do it; I say “Yes” and figure it out later.
Yes can be an important word when we are trying to find our way to someplace important like parenthood. We might need to consider or re-consider family building options that seemed like a “No” in our heart once upon a time. But somewhere along your path to parenthood, options that once seemed out of the question – might deserve a second look and a possible “Yes”.
I understand that you still might say “No, I will never do that.” or “No, that’s not who I am.” or “No, that’s just too scary.”.
And I will say “watch me say yes.”. It’s okay to say yes. It can be safe to say “Yes.”. It can feel courageous, freeing, affirming, and extraordinarily loving to ask those around you to say “yes” to you and your dreams and your desires.
Yes can open doors and fill our world with a sense of aliveness and sparkle. Yes is so much sexier than, “I can’t.” or “I shouldn’t.” or “It’s impossible.”. In the space between yes and no, there can be a lifetime, an adventure, a transformation. Yes can be the gateway to learning how to receive in your life. Yes, can create a pregnancy or an adoption.
Yes is the difference between the path you walk and one you leave behind; it’s the gap between who you thought you could be and who you really are, and what is possible in your life.